Saturday, February 25, 2012

marriage matters




We all have a childhood dream that when there is love, everything goes like silk, but the reality is that marriage requires a lot of compromise. Normally we girls fantasize of a handsome king who will come on a white horse and will take us to far away in heaven like place and we will be treated as queen… and parents too think,” hamari beti toh raaj karegi raaj” but reality is very poles apart…Before marriage, a man declares that he would lay down his life to serve you; after marriage, he won’t even lay down his newspaper to talk to you.

Being married women here comes a few comparisons… love karo ya arrange marriage; shaadi toh saiypa hai….


Morning late getting up
Before marriage Jaago bacho breakfast ban gaya
After marriage utho maharani kaam kaun karega

Eating time
Before marriage mummy khaane mein kya bana hai
After marriage kya banun?

Clothes
Before marriage wearing wahtever we wish
After marriage typical indian ethicals mostly


If room is untidy
Before marriage maa daanti hai par room saaf kar bhi deti hai… loved it
After marriage kaamchor… aalsi bahun jispe aalas ki devi hamesha meherbaan rehti hai

Cooking food
Before marriage maa sikhati aur appreciate karti
After marriage critisim and tantrums - isse toh kuch bhi aata

Weekend
Before marriage outing with friends
After marriage staying at home… or with relatives

Travelling
Before marriage ok so whats the plan
After marriage oh! Ghar bhi toh dekhna hai… “aawaragard na hoye te”

Being Careless sometimes
Before marriage koi nahi bachi hai abhi
After marriage hey bhagwaan! Isse to ghar manage karna aata hi nahi and all and all

Creativity
Before marriage lots of appreciation
After marriage sab bekaar ke time waste hai

Mistake
Before marriage Not a problem its always next time
After marriage Longtime time grumpiness


In marriage, each partner is to be an encourager rather than a critic, a forgiver rather than a collector of hurts, an enabler rather than a reformer. Two people may love each other very much but may end up not marrying each other, and two people who do not even know each other may marry each other in the end.

My hubby and I are completely different; we are just opposite to each other. If one is south then other is North; if one is reserved then other loves being social and chatty. And yet we are happy with each other…. Sometimes it feels I am married to perfect happy family and sometimes it feels why the hell I got married?



But whatever it may be it is always blessed… Getting married is not a compulsory to live in a respectable society; or one doesn’t have courage to live single the whole truth and nothing but the truth is that marriage is not a cake walk but I feel married life is much happier more love and lots and lots of responsibilities ….

I am writing this after my first marriage anniversary; hope the happiness and love continues…but few people (married for a long time) has bloodcurdling me that life will now take tough turns… oppps!!!!! Mummy !!!!!!!!

4 comments:

angel said...

hehe good one! wish you a very happy married life now and always!

Purva said...

hehe good one! wish you a very happy married life now and always!

Meghaa said...

thank u my darling sis

रंजना [रंजू भाटिया] said...

शादी के साइड इफेक्ट एंड गुड इफेक्ट ...:) खुश रहो ..बहुत बढ़िया .