Sunday, May 24, 2009
Marriage or Re-birth
Frank Pittman once said that,” for most people, a life lived alone, with passing strangers or passing lovers, is incoherent and ultimately unbearable. Someone must be there to know what we have done for those we love.” And I guess I am not a person who can live whole life all alone.
One fine morning my parents asked me if I am ready for the marriage so that they can start searching for the eligible bachelor for me. My replied optimistically to their question and they were so happy to my response. My heart too smiled as my parents were happy. The other day they asked me that they have fixed a meeting with a guy’s family on Saturday evening. I prepared my-self both physically and mentally for the evening that could change my life forever and ever. As I dressed up for the evening, my head was full of questions and my heart beats were not regular.
Finally we met the boy and his family. They asked us some questions and we too asked the couple of questions. Boy and I were let to have some time away from our parents so that we could judge each other if we can spend the whole life together. My heart constantly asked me if he would be able to care and respect me as my father does. Will he be able to love me as my mother does? Will he be my best friend when I need a friend? Will he be encourage and motivate me in my professional career whenever I need that? Will we be able to understand each other as we are? Will he allow me to meet my parents, friends and family whenever I want to meet them? will he allow me to waer the dress I want to wear? Will he accept me as I am? will I be able to accept him as he is? Knowing that he too has lived a simple life as I have lived, I said yes to my parents. And my heart danced when my parents told me after two days that they also have said yes.
I imagined my life without my parents in a new home with new people. I felt as if I am going to take new birth like a baby who doesn’t know how to walk, how to talk, how to behave and how to live according to the new environment in new world. I wonder how drastically a girl’s life gets changed in just one night. One day she is sitting, eating and behave at her parents home the way she wants and after the wedding night she has to observe her husband and his parents before doing anything so as to not to do anything wrong. I feel like its time once again I would to learn to walk talk according to them. I feel I am soon going to have re-birthed in a mysterious world with unknown environment. I could now feel how would have a baby feels in mothers womb.
Ah God! Life is really incredible.