New Turning Point of my life

Being a part of Punjabi family, it is always expected to get married soon and then have family planning soon. And same was the case with me too. Agree, apart from family pressure to make their dreams come true of becoming Dadi, Dada, nana, nani and all; I too longed to become a mother. It was 30th April 2013 morning, just few days after we returned from our fun filled Kashmir trip, when I was thrilled to know that I am soon going to bring a new life in this world. And since then I was showered with all types advises, tips, dos and don'ts list from almost everyone and everywhere.

 First trimester - As everyone says that the first 3 months of pregnancy are extremely critical and mother has to be extra careful with her health and diet. True, These 3 months, I was filled with mixed bag of emotions - extremely happy and excited and wanted to shout and announce to the world that I am going to be a mother soon. but on second thought I realized that I am not the only to be pregnant. Also being part of typical superstitious family it is believed that we should not tell anyone about the news to avoid any mishappening. These 3 months were filled with happiness, fear, excitement and fun. Also, being working women I had to manage and plan my work life balance.

Second Trimester - I exactly don't remember when this phase actually started and when it ended. It is probably the most easy phase of whole pregnancy. I just watched my body grow and becoming fat lady and it is the only time when any women on earth would be happy to see her weight gain. I enjoyed the time of being pampered and being extra cared by family members and in office too there were no work pressures... wow felt like either being a child without responsibility or being a teenager enjoying college life. It was this phase where my hubby and me needed to decide about the hospital for delivery. and after hell lot of confusion and discussion with family and friends we decided on M.K.W hospital, Rajouri garden. In this face I started feeling baby moments and it bring me lot of happiness; every time I went to doc for check up I could hear the baby's heartbeat and a smile automatically on my face.

Third Trimester -  For me, this was the toughest phase of my pregnancy, as 6 months were without any health problem and were spend in excitement. In this phase, I faced almost all sort of problems, from baby being weak, almost nil baby growth, I had high BP for which I was admitted in hospital, My SGPT level were high i.e. my liver enzyme were high, and had fear of pre-mature delivery. I now had to more careful about the baby moments and had to take extra care in my diet so that baby grows healthy. Now I just can't wait to see my baby and eagerly wanted the pregnancy phase end and hold my baby. But thank God and thanks to medicines I passed this phase and my delivery date was decided at the end of 37 weeks when baby is safe to come into this world. Though this date is actually almost 20 days before the actual due date but as per doc it is safe for baby and me. So I thrilled to carry my baby whom I felt in my body so long; can't wait to see his/her face.

Surely the whole pregnancy is very long waiting period to see the baby, a part of our own body. 

ज़िन्दगी का नया एहसास कितना हसीं हैं 
एक ज़िन्दगी को पलना कितना हसीं है
तेरी हर धड़कन को सुनना 
तेरे हाथ पैर हिलाना 
वो करवटें ले कर गुदगुदाना कितना हसीं है 
तेरी हर चाहत को चाहना 
तेरी हर आहट को महसूस करना कितना हसीं है 
तेरे होने में ही मेरी हर बात अब पूरी नजर आती है 
नज़रों में तेरी आने की चमक बढ़ती जाती है 
इन्तजार की घडी अब काटे नहीं काटी जाती है 
आ मेरी ज़िन्दगी मेरे अंश तू जल्दी आ जा 
अब एक नए रूप में मुझसे मेरा ही परिचय करा जा अब !!

Side effects of being mother-

• I miss my doing my interests like driving, dancing and participating in fun activities at office. 
• I miss wearing my favorite dress that i used to fit in. 
• I miss travelling. 
• Staying at home for so many days. 

but for sure being mother is God's biggest blessing one can ever receive... feels blessed feels complete... 

The Perfectionist Sculptor

Just thought to share an Inspiring story I read somewhere -

A gentleman once visited a temple under construction where he saw a Sculptor (statue maker) making an idol of God.

Suddenly he noticed a similar idol lying nearby. Surprised, he asked the sculptor, “Do you need two statues of the same idol?”

“No,” said the sculptor without looking up, “We need only one, but the first one got damaged at the last stage.”

The gentleman examined the idol and found no apparent damage. “Where is the damage?” he asked.

“There is a scratch on the nose of the idol.” said the sculptor, still busy with his work.

“Where are you going to install the idol?”

The sculptor replied that it would be installed on a pillar twenty feet high.

“If the idol is that far, who is going to know that there is a scratch on the nose?” the gentleman asked.

The sculptor stopped his work, looked up at the gentleman, smiled and said,

“I know it and God knows it!”


The desire to excel should be exclusive of the fact whether someone appreciates it or not.
Excel at a task today – not necessarily for someone else to notice but for your own satisfaction.
Excellence is a drive from inside, not outside.

A trip to vaishno devi...

After a long time, I am back to post something in my blog. I just returned from a trip to Vaishno Devi and had some really fun and interesting experience while traveling.

We reached Delhi Cantt Railway station at valentine's night to catch the train to Jammu. we met our friends and were waiting for the train at station filled with different people beggars, people waiting at wrong platform and realizing at the 11th hour then running hurriedly to catch their train and some hidden thieves waiting to stole things and have their jackpot.
Traveling in a local train can also be so much fun; running, rushing, pushing to catch train which stops at this station only for 2 mins and also at the same time being careful with our belongings to protect them from being stolen. At last we reached our seat; but heard a lady crying and shouting as her purse was stolen at the station and at the same time there came a big family next to our seats to attend a wedding a jalandhar; Gosh! what a oh hulla they had... Excited to attend wedding it looked like they were traveling in train for the first time... sure i had a headache because of mixed noise from all the corners. And then again come a family searching for their bag which might have been stole... uff thieves!



And we took a taxi to reach from Jammu to Katra and stayed at a hotel and this is a close from our hotel room.

Sure it was a freezing cold weather and it rained all day and night as we started walking, climbing 14 kms to pray

Covered with rain coat we started our journey. As I refreshed my memory when I visited here as a child, I remember crowd singing on same tone that was," pori pori chadta jaa jai mata di karta jaa... zor se bolo.... main nahi sunaya.... jai mata di... sab zor se bolo jai mata di...." but we had a different voices and experiences here...

 People were either busy in talking with themselves or eating or listening bollywood songs and some playing bhajans remixed on bollywood songs... and there were some people who were walking silently. most of the people took horse to cover the distance.

And something different I overheard while walking, there was some guy who mistakenly said ,"Galatiyaan toh Bhagwaan se hi hoti hai...." lol.

And there comes a young group singing," Mount view hotel phir bhi khush nahi... jai mata di.... sada room tusi le gaye... jai mata di.... ab nahi chala jaa raha... jai mata di.... horse le lo... jai mata di"

And a young a boy expalining something to his friend said," zindagi mein jo hona hai woh toh hona hi hai, tension nahi lene ka"

.  Fog, chilled waves and freezing hands could not stop us.

In both times we met a army soldiers traveling in train; may be this has become a part of their life to travel frequently.
A trip to remembered always; its fun and interesting to meet different people. Whether good or bad experience always teach us something or the other. 
And at the end of journey we were dog tired and exhausted.

Turning Thirty

A phase of loneliness,
a thinning list of single men to know,
Time always stands still for a woman of thirty
Turning thirty is the new turning twenty…?
Being with teenagers seems to be too kiddy,
And being with elders seems too old to be your life
Ah! Good old! Am I turning thirty?


Wonders where all the excitement have got lost,
And now thinning enthusiasm and thinning hair.
Those were the days when creating mess was fun,
Now it all seems to be so very filthy
Feels like I am turning thirty


I used to like dance and party,
Now they seem to be teenage thing
Am I really turning thirty?


Used to have fights with my mother in the first flush of youth,
Almost everything I wanted to do, she had her reasons to deny
Not understanding her then left me in the terrible fury
Now I really see myself acting and looking like her
A whole new thing happens on turning thirty!

marriage matters

We all have a childhood dream that when there is love, everything goes like silk, but the reality is that marriage requires a lot of compromise. Normally we girls fantasize of a handsome king who will come on a white horse and will take us to far away in heaven like place and we will be treated as queen… and parents too think,” hamari beti toh raaj karegi raaj” but reality is very poles apart…Before marriage, a man declares that he would lay down his life to serve you; after marriage, he won’t even lay down his newspaper to talk to you.

Being married women here comes a few comparisons… love karo ya arrange marriage; shaadi toh saiypa hai….


Morning late getting up
Before marriage Jaago bacho breakfast ban gaya
After marriage utho maharani kaam kaun karega

Eating time
Before marriage mummy khaane mein kya bana hai
After marriage kya banun?

Clothes
Before marriage wearing wahtever we wish
After marriage typical indian ethicals mostly


If room is untidy
Before marriage maa daanti hai par room saaf kar bhi deti hai… loved it
After marriage kaamchor… aalsi bahun jispe aalas ki devi hamesha meherbaan rehti hai

Cooking food
Before marriage maa sikhati aur appreciate karti
After marriage critisim and tantrums - isse toh kuch bhi aata

Weekend
Before marriage outing with friends
After marriage staying at home… or with relatives

Travelling
Before marriage ok so whats the plan
After marriage oh! Ghar bhi toh dekhna hai… “aawaragard na hoye te”

Being Careless sometimes
Before marriage koi nahi bachi hai abhi
After marriage hey bhagwaan! Isse to ghar manage karna aata hi nahi and all and all

Creativity
Before marriage lots of appreciation
After marriage sab bekaar ke time waste hai

Mistake
Before marriage Not a problem its always next time
After marriage Longtime time grumpiness


In marriage, each partner is to be an encourager rather than a critic, a forgiver rather than a collector of hurts, an enabler rather than a reformer. Two people may love each other very much but may end up not marrying each other, and two people who do not even know each other may marry each other in the end.

My hubby and I are completely different; we are just opposite to each other. If one is south then other is North; if one is reserved then other loves being social and chatty. And yet we are happy with each other…. Sometimes it feels I am married to perfect happy family and sometimes it feels why the hell I got married?



But whatever it may be it is always blessed… Getting married is not a compulsory to live in a respectable society; or one doesn’t have courage to live single the whole truth and nothing but the truth is that marriage is not a cake walk but I feel married life is much happier more love and lots and lots of responsibilities ….

I am writing this after my first marriage anniversary; hope the happiness and love continues…but few people (married for a long time) has bloodcurdling me that life will now take tough turns… oppps!!!!! Mummy !!!!!!!!